How to Help a Shy Child
A shy child need not necessarily be treated with kid gloves.
There are a few points about shyness in children which will help you better understand the best approach in dealing with your child.
First of all, are you sure your child really is shy? Some children like to size up a situation before they jump in. Caution should not be misunderstood as shyness.
Don't call your child "shy". Studies have shown that often a child will grow to fit a label.
Parental pressure on the shy child can cause anxiety and insecurity, leading to a worse problem with shyness. Don't push your child to achieve above his or her individual level.
Never compare your shy child with other children in a negative way. And never allow anyone else to hurt your child in this way.
Take your child's ideas seriously. By lessening the importance of a child's concerns you lessen the child.
Encourage your shy child to get involved in activities with others. Don't allow too many isolating activities, like watching TV.
Never push your shy child to do things he or she would find unbearable. Rather, make suggestions, but realize your child may not be ready. Be patient.
You need not handle your shy child with kid gloves, but be aware of how he feels and show that you understand.
Children are playing in the sand. They make roads for cars. One builds a castle where a doll can live. Another scoops out a hole, uses the dirt to make a hill, and pours some water in the hole to make a lake. Sticks become bridges and trees.
Our children deserve to learn important lessons from us and to acquire important habits with our help. They need help in learning what matters to us. We want our children to grow up to be responsible adults.