How and Where to Meet Eligible Women
A lot of guys will undoubtedly dispute this, but really - there are more eligible women running around loose today than there are men! In fact, all you've got to do to prove it to yourself is to take a look at the latest census figures relative to the number of men versus women in this country.
We're talking about unmarried women between the ages of 18 and 60... Believe it! There are more women than men available! In other words, there's at least one woman for every man that's looking for a woman.
It's a part of human nature for people to want to belong to someone of the opposite sex, and to have someone of the opposite sex they even think of as belonging to them. The human equilibrium cannot operate for long without inner-action with other people, and for total health/adjustment in the world we live in, not without inner-action with someone of the opposite sex.
Perhaps because of the "women's liberation movement", the recent recessions and high unemployment problems, the way the current generation was brought up expecting everything all at once, the increasing dependence upon drugs to give us pep or sooth our nerves, and at least a dozen other reasons - the number of women ending their marriages with divorce are out of hand... Indeed, the latest figures on the number of divorces filed within the past six months show that one out of every two marriages are falling apart!
This is putting a lot of women in the marketplace, all of them looking for men. They may claim that they "hate" men and that they don't care if they ever see, talk to, or associate with men again - but that's all "madness" relative to their divorces. At the bottom line, every woman that has ever walked the face of this old earth has or does want a man to call her own!
So, if you're a man and you're out looking for a woman. - One of the first things you should get straight in your own mind is what do you want a woman for, how long do you want her, and from there, what kind of woman will it take to satisfy your needs Your needs will vary with your moods, your financial situation, and your own lifestyle or mental adjustment to the world around you.
Thus, when you meet an eligible woman that you think can satisfy your needs, it would behoove you first to do a little bit "analytical reading" pertaining to her needs for a man. The more you can "find out" what she's looking for, and satisfy her needs, the easier it'll be for you to pick one that can satisfy your needs.
In other words, if she's on a "heavy duty trip" into women's lib, and you want someone to move in with you to wash the dishes and make your bed, you're liable to be wasting your time even attempting to talk to this woman. On the other hand, if she's just recovering from a divorce and seems to be trying to prove to the world that she's the sexiest and best lover to come down the pike in a month of Sundays, and you're out looking for a one night stand, then this is probably the woman you should be trying to pick up on.
What we're advocating and advising is simply this: The more, and faster you can "read'' what a woman is looking for, the faster and easier it's going to be for you meet the kinds of women you're looking for... For sure though, it's up to you to converse and/or appeal to any woman's wants if you want to make any headway with her.
About meeting women, introducing yourself and becoming acquainted... You've got to understand, and believe it for a fact, that in this day and age, most women are almost always looking for an eligible man...
Thus, when you see a woman that appeals to you at the bus stop, don't be afraid to say hello to her and attempt to strike up some sort of conversation. Women very rarely bite, and in these times, women are not prone to put a man down for being friendly. If you're looking for a woman, you've got to notice them anywhere and wherever you see them - and then, open your mouth - let them know that you'd like to get to know them!
The easiest and surest way of meeting eligible women is through the social activities of your local "singles" clubs, such as Parents Without Partners, Singles International, and Servetus. Most such groups sponsor regular dances, dinner parties, rap sessions, and any number of other activities designed to bring divorced and/or single people together.
Lonely Hearts Correspondence Clubs are okay, but in many of them you'll find the memberships inundated by women trying to sell you something or with some sort of designs to deal you out of your money. Then too, meeting someone via correspondence - learning to love them as a result of what they write in their letters to you - is sometimes disappointing and a hard situation to get out of, when you finally do meet in person.
Most of the Date-A-Mate services are okay, particularly those that employ video tape interviews, but the prices you pay for their introductions are outlandish. Generally, the success rate of these services - that of matching you with a woman that you end up marrying, and staying married to her - is less than 10-percent. Some of them are just glorified "dating or escort" services.
Attending church in search of an eligible woman sometimes works out - especially if the church sponsors dances, parties and group outings - but in many instances, you'll find that these church-going singles are either religious fanatics or neurotics.
The religious fanatic is a woman to run away from, as far as and as fast as you can, unless you're on a heavy duty religious trip yourself. As for the neurotics, they're generally hung-up with guilt, anger, or martyrdom from previous experiences with men.
With a "swinging" personality, you can generally score well in the bars and taverns. The thing is, you have to "find" the bars or taverns that are frequented by the age group and kind of women that meet your needs.
You'll find that the "higher class" women frequent the "motor inn" and hotel bars. About all you have to do is drop by and join in all the action when there's a convention or gathering of people from out of town in one of these places. It's then that you'll find many of the "local eligibles" out on the town, plus of course a lot of women from out of town who are looking for men. In this kind of situation, most of the women are easy to pick up on, and most of them are in no big hurry to make any real commitments.
To find the action - where there's sure to be lots of eligible women looking for men - look in your local paper... Look for advertisements announcing square dances, neighborhood picnics, travel tours, and of course, festivals or similar special events. When you go to one of these activities, you've got to mingle with people there - keep your eyes open for a woman that may be the one you're looking for - and then, do your thing to become acquainted with her. Remember, once you spot a woman you'd like to get to know, it's all up to you whether you become acquainted or let her slip through your fingers.
Another one of the surest places of meeting eligible women is the evening classes at your local colleges. If you're not familiar with their services, just give the college office a call and ask them to put you on their mailing list for bulletins and notices of up-coming classes being offered. Most colleges are now offering any number of seminars, classes and even short courses designed to help people rebuilding their lives after a divorce. These sessions are almost always "filled to capacity" with the majority of those attending, recently divorced women! By the same token, for whatever reason, most divorced women return to college to either finish their education or to take some special course that will give them some sort of edge in finding work. Check it out for yourself - it's almost a phenomena the way divorced women are flocking back to college.
Finally, and if you have the time for it, you'll find an unlimited supply of eligible women in the cafeterias of just about any large office building, particularly government office buildings. What you do is drop in and have lunch - become a regular - look the scene over and "reach out" for one that appeals to you.
Remember, spotting a woman you'd like to have is no big deal - The important thing is forget your shyness, inhibitions, and fears of rejections - Just walk right up to her and say something like: Hello, I think I'd like to get to know you - could we talk for a minute or too?
Try it! You'll be pleasantly surprised with the results! After all, the women are wanting to meet you just as badly as you want to meet them!
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